08/03/2021

I often hear people saying that you can’t do the wrong thing, if you try to do the right thing…
But this begs the question as to what the ‘right’ thing is, because what might feel ‘right’ to you, may feel ‘wrong’ to somebody else. Over the years, I have come to see that (apart from clearly ‘wrong’ acts, which greatly harm someone else), there is usually no one objective ‘truth’ in most situations, as two or more people usually just have their own ‘truth’, which then compete against each other, even where they may see exactly the same thing as one another.
I guess we just have to always try and look as carefully as possible at any given situation, including through other people’s eyes, before we determine what seems to us the right thing for us to do. We should also try to consider as many different perspectives as we can, before reaching any conclusion and acting accordingly.
Hard I know isn’t it? We are always in such a hurry in life and are therefore very quick to make assumptions or draw on our unconscious biases. Yet, when somebody does something differently to the way we would do it, or just has a different view from us, we are always very slow to let ourselves wonder if their way of doing things, or their view may actually be more ‘right’ than ours.
So, always try to do what seems to be the right thing to do, but only after trying to see things from other people’s perspective first. You don’t have to always agree with them, but at least you will know in yourself (or you can later tell them) that you first looked at things also from their perspective, before you did anything




