24/4/2023

This week I want to continue talking about decision-making again. But this week I want to talk about giving both other people and yourself one less decision to have to make. There are countless situations where you can apply this principle.
We are constantly bombarded with choices. From the moment we wake in the morning, we face decisions about what to wear, what to eat, what tasks to prioritise, and so on throughout the day, until we go to bed. Even then, we may lie awake thinking of decisions to make.
Having to make so many everyday decisions unconsciously is very draining in the long run. So, giving yourself or others one less not so important decision to have to make everyday can actually be helpful. Making one more decision is often counterproductive, time-consuming and unnecessary.
However, we always need to give people the freedom and right to make their own decisions and choices in life. This is referred to as ‘autonomy’. Please note that I not only fully agree with this principle, but will always support it whenever and wherever I can at whatever cost!
But somewhat paradoxically and almost contradictorily, it doesn’t always benefit us or others to do things this way, as the principle of autonomous decision-making should often only be used for bigger decisions that we need to make, which require us first to spend time thinking about them carefully and consciously.
We always feel tempted to give people the right to make decisions. But, while seeming reasonable, it can actually hinder them if having to decide something small. It can also lead to confusion and wasted time, as well as tiredness. By making a decision for them, you eliminate a burden.
A very simple example is if you want a meal with a friend, just ask them if they would like pizza at a named restaurant at a certain time, so they can agree or not. Don’t ask them separate questions (i.e. whether they want a meal, what, where and when).
Staying with the food theme, an example for yourself is personal eating. Many struggle to make choices. But preparing food in bulk for the week at the weekend and putting portions in the fridge to take out when needed, mean decisions of what you eat everyday are made beforehand.
Finally, it’s important to balance this with the need for autonomy, as people still want some degree of control over choices. The key is finding a balance. But giving people one thing less to decide has a significant impact on well-being and productivity, as we free up mental space for more important tasks.
So, this week, if facing a decision yourself, or if you need someone else to decide something, see if there’s a decision that you can eliminate. And the irony here is that you then make a decision not to give yourself or other people another decision to make!




